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BREAKING the 20 YEAR BARRIER…

May 28, 2010 2 comments

As I sit here to write this, I am in my room at The Pierre hotel overlooking Central Park in NYC.  This is a beautiful (expensive) property, but its value is more sentimental to me than anything else.  This is the first hotel that I ever spent the night in with my amazing wife Kelly.  That was almost two decades ago when the hotel was a Four Seasons (now a Taj hotel).  We have returned here to celebrate our 20-year Anniversary.The evening we spent here all those years ago was magical.  I took her to Sardi’s for a pre-theater cocktail…. then we had 3rd row seats for Phantom of the Opera (when it was the hottest show on Broadway)….Then we took a limo to Tavern on the Green for a romantic dinner….and topped it off with a horse and carriage ride through the park back to the hotel as we sipped on some Dom Perignon!

I knew I had one shot at this hot young lady, and I made that shot count!  So much has happened since then and being here is bringing back all kinds of memories.  Prior to being with Kelly, the longest relationship I had ever had was about 5 years.  At one point in my life, I never envisioned that I would find someone that I would want to spend several decades with.  It is truly amazing how time flies when you are having fun.

We have done soooooooooooo much together.  We have traveled all over the country non-stop for business and pleasure.  We have also done quite a bit of international travel over the last 5 years.  We have eaten in some of the world’s best restaurants…. we have seen dozens of Broadway plays…. We’ve been to a bunch of great sporting events……We have had the amazing pleasure of seeing our precious daughters grow up and blossom into little ladies….We have had numerous romantic getaways….It has been a blast!

Marc Accetta and Kelly Accetta in Rome with family

I know that they say all relationships/marriages are work.  Kelly and I have definitely had our moments, but in general it has been effortless!  It really has.  We have so much in common and truly enjoy each other’s company.  We have not only been together 20 years…we have worked together 20 years as well.  That is another thing that people say is a difficult feet to achieve, but it has been a joy for us.

If there was any hard work involved, it was by her in the early years of our relationship when I was quite a bit less mature and aware than I am now.  Heck, I was only in my early to mid 30’s…. Most men don’t hit emotional maturity until our mid-forties. (LOL)  I was definitely a handful in the beginning, but she was very patient, and I would like to think that it has been worth her patience.

Since those early years, we have been totally in sync.  She has truly been the wind beneath my wings, and I would like to think I have returned the favor for her.  She is definitely my biggest fan, as I am hers.

A few years ago, she took on the challenge of welcoming my mom, dad, and special needs adult brother into our home.  She has taken over as their primary care giver as well as being a spectacular mother to our daughters, and the CFO for our companies.  She is my hero!

It is so sad that people are virtually amazed when we tell them we are celebrating 20 years together.  I guess in this day and age, it really is unusual for people to be together that long.  If there were any advice I could offer to people on their way to breaking the 20-year barrier, it would be this:

  • Find someone who is your best friend over someone who you think is hot (although I got to do both)
  • Don’t spend all your time with your children.  Have some romantic dates and exotic getaways to keep you romance alive.
  • Find someone who you can laugh with….over the funny things, and more importantly, over the tough things that will arise.
  • Don’t take your partner for granted.
  • And…….most importantly……have lots of great sex!

I have to go now as we are off to Per Se’ for what promises to be an unforgettable Anniversary dinner.  I look forward to the opportunity to have another amazing 20 years with my sweetheart, and writing a follow up blog about it from the Pierre.

L’italia è un paese meraviglioso.

January 14, 2009 1 comment

In mid November I was fortunate enough to take my wife and two daughters to Italy for an incredible two week vacation.  I know it is a cliché, but it was definitely a trip of a lifetime.  First of all, for those of you that have been around me know that I NEVER take two weeks in a row off.  Secondly, we did not touch our cell phones and only got on-line twice during the whole trip.  That, in and of itself, was a blessing.  Looking at it now, it amazes me how we are all attached to our cell phones and computer in our everyday lives like an IV bag at the hospital. 

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After about three or four days of real relaxation, I finally started to get the adrenaline out of my system, and have a blast.  We started our adventure in Rome.  We had a very tight connection in NYC on our flights to Rome, that our bags missed the plane.  We were having such a good time that we didn’t even care.  Rome is such a magical city where the modern day life takes place right in the middle of an ancient city.  Sometimes, you can’t quite believe what you are seeing.  It was priceless to see our girls taking it all in that we didn’t even notice that our luggage was missing but we eventually got it about 36 hours later.  We saw the Vatican and the Sistine Chapel and the Coliseum, but we had just as much fun just walking all over the city exploring. 

Needless to say, the food was amazing.  We stayed at the De La Ville hotel at the top of the world famous Spanish Steps which gave us easy access to all the finest shopping and restaurants.  We spent hours just strolling up and down the Via Veneto the equivalent to Rodeo Dr. in Beverly Hills and doing nothing.  It turns out that Europeans are really good at doing nothing.  It is obvious that they are enjoying their lives.  Don’t get me wrong they do work because they want the finer things in life…BUT they actually stop and enjoy life a lot more than we do in America.  We stayed in outstanding 4 and 5 star hotels and ate at the finest restaurants, but were surprised at the lack of speed of service.  At first we were frustrated then we realized that the service was excellent it was just not at the American breakneck pace that we were used to.  It took a while to slow down, but once we did, it was liberating. 

The only bad part of the entire trip was our experience at the Zilli store on the Via Veneto.  I was given a Zilli jacket many years ago as a gift and was dying to buy something there.  I immediately found a Cashmere jacket that was lined with Chinchilla.  (Please do not be mad at me if you are an animal activist, it turns out that these particular chinchillas had died in a tragic car crash)  Anyway, I was trying it on and asked one of my daughters to feel the inner-lining.  NOW, if you have never felt Chinchilla fur, it is undoubtedly some of the finest, softest fur that you will ever feel and I believe that this is what all the clothes are lined with in Heaven.   As my lovely, children went to feel it, the Jackass is charge went crazy yelling at me AND my children.  What a pathetic salesperson.  Then he muttered under his breath that we were STUPID Americans.  That was a BIG mistake on his part.  I had some very select “American” words for him and we were on our way out of that store.  As we continued to walk we found the exact same coat at Brioni and the sales person encouraged my daughters to feel the fur.  I assure you that before I leave this earth, I will buy that coat from Brioni, and wear it in to see that imbecile.

 The next day we took the train to Milan after that and hit the most gorgeous shopping mall I have ever seen.  It is actually hard to call it a mall.  It is a converted historic building that may have been a cathedral at one time. It is breathtaking and houses all the best Italian stores including Prada’s flagship store.  We spent quite a bit of time in that store, and my wife assures me that we saved a tremendous amount of money there because the products are much higher in the USA after the importing costs are added.  I’m not sure I follow her logic, but it was great to see her and the girls run amuck in that place.   

We then set off for my personal favorite…Venice.  I can’t exactly put it in words, but Venice is absolutely wonderful.  We stayed at the Ca Marie Adele, which may be one of my favorite hotel in the world.  The staff takes customer service to a level that I have never experienced.  We walked all over Venice.  We visited the Palace of the Dogie’s, rode in Gondola’s and strolled around St marks Square.  We enjoyed my birthday dinner at a spectacular restaurant called Do Forni.  Now this restaurant is known as The Restaurant of Venice and to say “WOW” to the food just does not give it justice.  

If you are looking for a romantic setting, look no further.  Venice is The Deal.  Think about what they have done with a city that is technically flooded!  Talk about turning a negative into a positive.  We finished our trip to Venice with a trip to the world famous Murano Glass Factory.  What an amazing experiace it was to see the level of craftsmanship it takes to make those pieces.  In another example of European patience, a Murano glass maker must serve as an apprentice for fifteen years before they have a chance to be elevated to a Master Craftsman.  I honestly believe that the biggest reason that most people never reach their dreams is that they think very short term. I honestly believe that Nothing of True Greatness Will Come Quickly. 

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We were very fortunate to get an exclusive tour to see the pieces of their glass that are considered Fine Artwork.  There is a figure of Moses holding up the Ten Commandments that is on my Goal Cards and will stay there until those Commandments are residing with me in Dallas, Texas.

The bad news is we eventually had to leave Venice. The good news is we were headed to Florence.  We visited the famous David statue which is truly awe inspiring.  Everyone should really see Michael Angelo’s masterpiece in person before they die.  The detail on that statue is absolutely unbelievable.  Especially when you learn that he took a defective piece of marble that two other great artists had tried to carve and gave up on, and he turned that into the incredible likeness of David from the Bible.

Florence also is noted for having the best food in Italy, and you will get no argument from us.  We ate at several amazing restaurants but the hole in the wall Birreria Centrale is one you must go to when you visit Florence.  The Cathedral in the center of town was built in the 1400’s and it is a marvel to behold.  Right adjacent to it are the Golden Doors to Heaven.  It is all breathtaking and just beautiful to see the amazing structures.

Our trip concluded back in Rome.  This time we stayed at the Hotel Splendide Royal.  What a way to go out.  We ate our last two dinners at Harry’s Bar (the place that everyone who’s anyone must eat at) or so they say anyway, and then we conclude with the indescribable Mirabelle at the top of the Splendide Royal hotel.  The breathtaking view is only out done by the sumptuous food. 

Amazingly considering all of the delicious food we consumed, we did not put on any weight on our trip.  That is pretty amazing is you ask me and it is all do to our life changing diet planned by our nutritionist Kira.  She keeps it so simple and takes no excuses from her clients.  We really appreciated her cusom teachings and suggestions on this incredible trip.

As a final thought, I will tell you that although I did learn several valuable lessons from observing the Italian lifestyle, I also realized some very profound things about life back home in America.  As good as the Italian food was,ours is better. Not only that, it’s consistently better all over the place.  Our cars and homes and stores are bigger and better too.  Unless you have traveled abroad (and really paid attention) you cannot possibly know how good we have it.  I loved visiting Italy, but I love living in America.  We do focus on material things a bit too much, and do burn the candle at both ends too, but all in all, I could not imagine living anywhere else.

I truly hope that you take the time and money to do a trip like this with your family (or by yourself) before your time on earth is done.  You can do anything you set your mind and your heart to.  Walt Disney said it best, “If you can dream it, you can do it.” 

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